YES YOU CAN! Sam Deep and Lyle Sussman

If you do not change it on your HEAD, you can never change it in your LIFE.

                                         - Intelligent Investor

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This book provides great advice and articulates how you can make this advice a part of your daily life. Whether your goal is to speak powerfully, discover hidden talents or fulfilment at work.

It is an inspiring guide to improve yourself and improve your relationships, balance work with home life and build lasting success.

Yes, You Can! Gives you the tool to make it happen.

About the Author:

Sam Deep is an Organisational consultant and has 19 internationally published books that have sold over two million copies.

Lyle Sussman, is Chairman and Professor of Management, College of Business and Public Administration, University of Louisville. He is a bestselling business author with more than 1,000,000 copies of his books sold.

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Chapter 1

The first step towards our personal development – THINK POSITIVELY

You can’t lead a cavalry charge if you think you look funny on the horse. --JOHN PEERS

Often we come across situations in life that seem like a disaster. It can be related to our love life, career, family, hobbies or simply daily little chores. When these things happen, we are usually taken over by sorrow or sadness.

On other occasions, we may feel angered and bury ourselves in negative emotions that really does no good in the long run.

How to overcome this in the best possible way?

We must learn to use positive thinking to our advantage at all times. Whenever these things occur, we should try to see the lesson that can be taken out of the situation, and then proceed with our life.

Remind yourself the situations and problems are temporary, and it will not last forever.

Just keep going…Difficult roads can lead to beautiful destinations

Believe good things are on the way

We will give you two examples, one related to Professional life and second for Personal

Professional life: 
With my Job, hurdles, problems and difficulties used to be my perpetual partners. Not knowing or understanding how some things work, or how to solve a problem used to slowly kill me, however with time I learned to deal with this.

One simple technique helped me, I changed my thinking regarding difficulties at work and it changed my work life.

Now I am able to be more positive at work, I simply came to the realization that learning is an ongoing process.

Ideally, it should last your whole life.

By accepting difficulties at my job, I have become more positive, motivated and even better at problem-solving.

Personal Life: If you have just broken up with your loved one, see it as an opportunity to make yourself better. Note down all the mistakes that you have made in this relationship in order not to repeat them again, and then go on improving yourself while you have the opportunity.

In a matter of time, you will be in a relationship again. So instead of spending days sobbing, go and make yourself great!

Always do your best, but never beat up yourself for things that are outside of your control.

Change your thoughts and you change your world- NORMAN VINCENT PEALE 

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Chapter 2

If you wish to bring some change in your world you need to - ACT POWERFUL.

Success in life comes not from holding a good hand, but in playing a poor hand well --  WARREN G. LESTER

Doing so will require you to demonstrate fearlessness and a considerable amount of self-confidence. Take risks even if you are afraid, you should act as though you aren't.

Power works in a cycle. 

When others view you as being powerful, they will naturally treat you like you are a powerful person, even to the extent of granting you the power you didn't have before.

You need to be physically fit and mentally strong, this will give you a very powerful presence. Invest in yourself, meditate, read, eat healthy food, exercise, spend time in nature, family and friends, and remember your body is a temple.

Also, relax and reconnect with the people and things that are important to you.

Forty thousand wishes won’t fill your bucket with fishes. -- FISHERMAN’S  SAYINGS

Chapter 3

To become an influencer one has to – ‘COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY.’

Wisdom is the reward you get for a lifetime of listening when you would have preferred to talk. --DOUG LARSON

No matter your age, background, or experience, effective communication is a skill than can be developed. In return, it will help you get things done the way you want it to be done.

At the workplace, open meetings, one to one conservations, emails or training. These are effective ways to communicate with employees.

Example – Once at my workplace our management decided to take a 10% pay cut so that the company could avoid layoffs for the time being. 

Our CEO was a good communicator, he always kept the employees updated on the struggles, which the business was experiencing with a clear and frequent communication at team meetings.

Every employee agreed to this request.

Why did this happen?

Employees felt involved and knew exactly what was happening. They were not blindsided by the CEO’s request for the pay cut. They trusted and supported the company.

Chapter 4

Effective communication definitely – ‘BUILD RELATIONS’

The only way to have a friend is to be one -- RALPH WALDO EMERSON

Relationships are the building blocks for all community organizing activities. Whether you want to organize a volleyball game or get rid of unfair housing practices in your town, you will need lots of good relationships.

Why? 

Because the relationships we have with our co-workers, the communities we serve, and even our adversaries are the means for achieving our goals.

People don't work in isolation: we need to be working together!

It is our relationships all added together that is the foundation of an organized effort for change. We need lots of people to contribute their ideas, take a stand, and get the work done.

For Example - If you are the official leader or an active citizen without an official title, you will be most effective if you establish many strong relationships around yourself in the community.

The best time to make friends is before you need them -- ETHEL BARRYMORE

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Chapter 5

Relationships build people – MOTIVATE OTHERS

If anything goes bad, I did it. If anything goes semi-good, then we did it. If anything goes real good, then you did it. That’s all it takes to get people to win football games -- RAUL “BEAR” BRYANT

While leading a group of people towards success, you must learn how to motivate others. Try to understand what motivates them, and work on satisfying their requirement. 

You will be on the right track for a positive and enlightening experience for all involved.

Example – 

1. If someone is hungry, they won’t be able to concentrate on their task. In this case, you will need to make sure that this person has lunch before he\she begins the task. This will help in the completion of the task in an effective manner. 

2. No one likes to feel like their existence doesn’t matter. Just because the final decision lies with the senior authority, doesn’t mean that they can’t get some help with important decision making. 

People enjoy contributing and being a part of it. They feel like they are making a difference. Always keep an open ear and you will be motivating your team to come up with solutions and creative ideas.

It is not the martinets that make an army work, it is the morale that the leaders put into the men that makes an army work --  HARRY TRUMAN

Chapter 6

Motivation ultimately leads to Prosperous life – PROSPER AT WORK

It is not enough to be industrious (hardworking); so are the ants. What are you industrious about? -- HENRY DAVID THOREAU

 If you truly want to prosper at work, you need to increase your value and in order to do that, you must change your mindset. 

People are happier when they are successful at work.

Like achieving performance goals, getting a promotion or serving customers better, getting appreciated from seniors or meeting deadlines etc. This drives them to work hard to excel and achieve their goals.

From understanding your organisation, knowing your boss well, being professional, reliable, ambitious and a good communicator, and finally the most important quality, having a positive attitude is what makes one successful at the workplace.

Example –When given an assignment, tell your boss exactly how you plan to approach it and what form you expect the results to take. Get approval on your plans now so that you won’t later hear “That's not the way I wanted that done!”

This will help to balance the work in an effective and efficient manner, it will create a stress-free environment and increase customer satisfaction which will ultimately hit the bottom line and increase the credibility of the company.

By working faithfully eight hours a day you may eventually get to be a boss and work twelve hours a day --  ROBERT  FROST

Chapter 7

To be happy at home is the ultimate result of all ambition – PROSPER AT HOME

In a united family, happiness springs of itself -- CHINESE PROVERB

 Home is the place where you live and feel relieved when you walk in through the door.

Be happier at home by making it a place in which you can connect with others by simplifying life, saving money for better future and family planning. Raise happy, healthy children as they are the life force, wisdom and love of parents.

Happy Home = Happy Life.

Example: Listen! In the evening ask your spouse to share the day’s experiences with you before you do the same. Give your undivided attention. Respond to the feelings that are expressed – don’t reject any of them.

Half of the mistakes made in the relationship will be yours. Apologize when you make them, but don’t think that a mere apology ever lets you off the hook. Make a commitment to your partner not to repeat the mistake and ensure that fulfil what you commit.

Some important activities to do at home:

Communicate your values by deed, not by laying down the law.

Assign children meaningful household duties, teach them how to contribute to the upkeep of their home.

Teach them financial responsibility, make them earn at least a portion of the money they need/ want for special purchases, activities and family vacations.

These are the sign of good parenting. This will make your children capable to take the responsibilities of their own lives and be independent.

Where we love is home – home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts -- OLIVER  WENDELL  HOLMES,  SR.

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Summary of Summary: In our own words

1. Try and find a positive point in every situation, at the beginning it won’t be easy. However, remember everything seems difficult when you begin. 

Eg:  A child learning to walk.

Keep trying and one day you will master the art of positive thinking. 

Always Remember “The night is the darkest just before the dawn”

2. Power works in a cycle, people avoid taking initiative however if they see and believe you have the right confidence and you know what you are speaking they will start following you. Act Powerful

3. Communication is the key to success, practice what you want to say. Keep practising until you perfect it. You might fail in the initial attempts however, do not stop. Keep working on it and soon you will realize communicating with people is not that difficult.

4. No matter how good you are, there is a limit to things that you can do. Everybody has 24 hrs, no one cannot go beyond that individually. 

Now, if you can manage to bring in just one person with the same dream and attitude you will drastically increase your daily limit from 24 to 48 hrs. Imagine how powerful you be if you have the right team with you.

5. Everyone likes to be with someone who listens and motivates them. However, remember do not become a garbage bag for them, or else they will keep pouring their trash on you. 

Show them the right way, be a guide and make it very clear that you cannot walk for them. People will not only love and respect you but also start talking about you to other people.

6. Give and you get!

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Neha Desai

She is a Post Graduate Diploma in Business Administration and holds a Master's in Management with a focus on Human Resource from Welingkar Institute of Management Development and Research. Her passion is Organization development.

A "perfectionist" in her work with keen "attention to details". You can connect with her on 

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